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Many people consider blended family communication as not
always helpful at all time. It is sometimes good to be direct and honest about
our feelings in order to achieve our goals, which is according to the self-help
advisors counsel. This is actually a good advice to take but it is a bit
different when it comes to dealing with blended family conflicts. As one of the
adults in the situation of blended family, we normally put our feelings behind.
Sometimes, venting anger can do more damage than good
especially when it comes to the things in blended family spouse such as not
telling about the ex-spouse or something about the in-laws. When you spoke
words in anger, it can sometimes inflict damage to the relationships
specifically to the spouse and step children or even to your family friends. Sometimes
the short-term feelings we release are worth it.
The next time you get angry with your blended family spouse
of step children, consider taking a time-out about it. You can communicate
better when you are calm. Just accept you are angry and use some time to cool
off before making conversation again. When you have calmed down, be sure to
come back to the conversation you left. Handling anger this way shows how you
demonstrate your willingness to discuss the issues and to listen or speak with
respect. This is important when it comes to blended family communication. If
you need more advice for your blended family, you can visit The Blended and
Step Family Resource Center.
