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If there is something you focus in the past, then the guilt
is one of these. It is through when it comes to the blended family about the
pain that the parents brought to their children due to the divorce or
separation. We sometimes forgot about the important things for our children
such as setting their future to be better due to these mistakes we did.
When you married a new partner with kids, then you simply
need to understand that these kids will be part of your new step family as
well. Being a blended couple needs to create boundaries and rules for the
children as well as when it comes to management of the home. Therefore, for
your children to become independent and live as responsible adults, you need to
set a blended family environment centered for independence and responsibility,
which you and your partner should establish.
There are overlook behavior that we normally tolerate in a
child due to the feelings of guilt that we have in a blended family. Basically, the main reason is
that we do not want them to be upset more with it. You need to ask yourself if
there is a tendency for the child to misbehave and whether you need to
encourage or discourage it. When ignoring these kinds of behavior, we also
encourage it. We need to be proactive with other options then if you want to
discourage it and therefore a decision will be centered if you will need to
tolerate this from your step kids.
