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Unresolved feelings of anger and bitterness, mixed
allegiances to the step parents and birth parents, loyalty of the children to
the parents and step parents, conflictions to the ex-spouses and many more are
some of the things you can get when you blend two families. Furthermore, adding
holiday will surely provide extra challenges to everyone.
Luckily, you successfully overcome the peak holiday
stressors such as Thanksgiving Day and other dinner party with the extended
family. Your spouse developed and became comfortable to the surroundings of the
extended family. Your parents also accept the step kids.
Yet, you may encounter sadness especially the kids and step
kids when it comes to Christmas time since they cannot be present or go to the
ones they love. It is not normal that children won’t be able to go to you or
with their other parent during special holiday occasions. This also applies to
you as well. You cannot simply move on to life by forgiving them and find remorse
to enjoy the celebration.
A blended family is actually a family that is combined and
possesses different rituals in life. You cannot assume your step kids to be
same as your kids since they grew up from different environment in the past. Therefore,
having a holiday celebration with your blended family will help you and your
family to overcome sadness and feelings that are bad. You can visit The Blended
and Step Family Resource Center for more information if you need help with your
step family.
