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You and your new spouse desire to have a blended family that
is full of nurturing and love. You basically want it as a fulfillment to the missing
part of your lives due to parental death or divorce reasons. However, you still
feel isolated even though you are together. Your biological kids show acts that
they don’t normally do in the past. Furthermore, they are showing you unhappy
space and sharing with their step parent or step siblings. Your biological kids
also act like you don’t exist or you are one of their enemies. They speak
rudely and treat you in an unfair way. They also don’t listen to you when you
speak on them.
This is actually not the kind of blended family you hoped
from the start. You are reminded that they are just kids when you talk with
your partner about how rude your step kids. This allows you to feel
misunderstood and angry. Your partner will then explain to you that the step kids just go every weekend or holiday and sometimes not since they are not
interested. This problem can be categorize as Parenting by Guilt and crossed
with Parenting by Fear. Both methods don’t do any better with your relationship
whether for long or short term run. If you need advice on your blended family,
you can go to The Blended and Step Family Resource Center for more details.
Your blended family will surely be helped when you ask for advice to them.
